Hey guys I made a burner account for this post. It's going to be a long one so buckle in boys.

I've recently discovered the passport bro lifestyle via a friend/business partner of mine. He explained the lifestyle to me and I can see the appeal (as I will explain below).

Bit about me before I get into this:

Physical: 31 M, 6ft, in decent shape, full head of hair, physically abled, light tattoo work (non offensive), mixed ethnicity (African, British, German and Indian; look overtly Indian; born in Canada) and a pretty snappy dresser. I also do not drink or do drugs or gamble (personal choice). Main vice would be fast food items but I have that under control.

Mental: on and off therapy for 12 years (as needed in the last 8 years). Generally keep a positive head space.

Spiritual: anything to do with nature and connecting with people. Connection is the answer to life I believe. I am also close with my family and friends.

Hobbys/interests: I can cook foods from most cultures around the world, I play guitar/piano/saxophone, I am working on launching childrens picture books, I enjoy the gym, gardening (grew up farming), foraging for local ingredients, fishing, renos/handwork around my properties, travelling, really anything that is healthy and promotes growth as a person.

Occupation: Physician/medical business owner (900k -1M/year) in Canada. Also a home owner. Also 0 debt and my properties have been paid of as of 2024.

About family: Laid back and liberal in perspective. No substance abuse issues and my parents are still together, happily married. They are both Drs.

My current standard in women I am looking for: have a job (anything even retail), have a license (don't even need a car), no kids, be monogamous, no onlyfans, no addiction to substances (cigarettes are okay 😅), I don't even care if you finished high school. THAT'S IT. Are my standards too high lol?

Going to be vulnerable here boys... I acted on some serious insecurities and ran an experiment, with some Dr friends, which gave me some answers. And that's how I ended up on this sub reddit.

Background:

I'm going to be honest. Looking overtly East Indian kind of fucks you for dating in Canada, even if you are mixed and your parents are from Africa. In the 2000s Indian dudes were viewed as the gross, smelly nerds that people put up with and would make lighthearted, surface level racist, jokes at. Now in 2025 people think Indians are colonizing Canada and there is some serious hate going on. I can understand both sides and I am not looking to discuss this as a topic. It is just the backdrop to the experiment. I should mention I was raised, for the entirety of my life, in Saskatchewan (if you know you know).

Myself and a couple other physicians, in the same boat, decided to run an experiment for fun. It wasn't done to any serious standard as there is no intent to publish and life is busy.

Experiment:

Create paid profiles on Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, POF and Match. (The only parameter for the selection of females was age:18-37)

We each created different profiles with different content (variables).

We each created 3 profiles with differing occupations with our pictures (electrician, business owner, physician). The occupations were chosen to reduce bias preferences in blue vs white collar men.

We then created 3 profiles following the aforementioned criteria but edited our photos as different predominant ethnicities in Canada (African descent, Asian descent, Caucasian descent, Indian descent, first nations descent).

Once the profiles were completed we would just mash that like/heart/w.e. button until we ran out of matches in an area. We even made a game of it lol. Good times! Like I said, the only parameter was age so we went through a lot of people. Eventually, between us, we went through at least 2500 people, minimum per profile, Canada wide between all the apps.

My buddy went a level further and ran a couple more trials with different variables. For example, he noticed that no one was responding to his Indian descended profile. So he got creative. He started messaging women. In the beginning he introduced himself normally. Fast forward 3 months and he his message was:

"Hey I'm ****. Been getting asked this a lot but no I'm not Indian 😅 I'm African, British, German and Brazillian and born in Canada. How are you doing? I also come with perks as a physician 😁"

This message, even though garbage, generated the most responses for him. This was across the board, ethnically, for women.

We needed to include physician in our intro messages, for the Indian profiles, otherwise we would get 0 replies/likes. Also women wouldn't bother to look at our profiles so we had to jam pack the first message to grab their attention.

We all kind of knew what the results would be but we were a bit shocked:

Overall Caucasian men significantly had the most messages with the most balanced ethnic spread for interest from women. That's no surprise due to that being the majority demographic. All communication channels were maxed, 99 messages for the Caucasian physician profiles.

Then came African Descended, first nations descended, Asian descended then Indian descended.

Now focusing on the Indian descended profiles (as I look overtly Indian and they were my pics).

In 3 months I received around 15 messages, Canada wide, only responding to my profile that listed my profession as a physician (my actual profile). Most of the women who comprised my 15 messages were trying to leave bad situationships, looking for a sugar daddy, looking for a father for their kids or were escorts.

The most impolite and negative messages came from Indian women followed by First Nations women, African descended women then Caucasion women (lowest response group)

On the contrary Asian women were the most receptive to our Indian profiles (especially Chinese, Korean and Japanese- money/status motivated cultures who look down on melanated individuals). This was our gold digger demographic. Everyone of them wanted proof of licensure and income at some point in the conversation.

Also keep in mind we ran this experiment Canada wide.

Obviously this was a crude experiment and by no means are we implying correlations. We didn't plot any data or r value it. I want to stress we did this as a side quest boys. Don't get lost in the stats. My questions are coming up.

Now one cannot feel like a low value man after going through this experience. That's just the reality. I'm not looking to complain or play the victim. I'm looking for solutions.

My goal is to find a woman for a monogamous marriage who wants to have kids. I'm waiting to settle down on 10 acres and build a home for my future family. Boys! I've thought long and hard about this. I just want peace and to enjoy the life of a family guy. I don't need a lady into crazy kinks or a lady who is successful financially. I want a lady who is caring, nurturing, supportive and who has the traits to be a decent mother. I'm also very open to selling my business and working telehealth, as a physician, so I can work from home to be with my family. Being an active and available father for my future children is my priority.

The question is where should I go? Money and time off isn't an issue. I can really do whatever I want when I want. I just need guidance on how to approach being a passport bro and where to go.

My friends are also curious as well.

*Edit: I have been to 13 countries in my life so far. Just never with the intent of finding someone. So I wasn't looking.

My family is from South Africa so I've traveled there a lot.

Outside of that's I've been to the U.S., Mexico, Egypt, UK, France, Germany, Dubai, Singapore, Malaysia, south Korea, Australia and New Zealand.

**Edit: I don't approach women in public due to me looking overtly Indian, in Canada, and don't want to ever be remotely labeled as a creep. This would severely impact my business and I won't risk my license/public image with personal interactions.

***Edit: For those asking why I don't find a Canadian Indian woman. Firstly I speak no Indian languages and neither does my family. Our family has been in South Africa for over 200 years. Secondly, my family is south Indian, Tamil, who are the descendants of sugar cane slaves (considered untouchable by East Indians) and we are of mixed race (dirty blood- as referenced by a temple member as that was the reason I was asked to leave). Finally, if you are perceived as being an Indian man by that woman's family, and have no "culture" you are viewed as trash.

I would rather not deal with that. I may look overtly Indian but I am mixed and my family, for the last 200 years, is from South Africa.

****Edit: I'm not looking to exploit women in poverty. I'm NOT looking for sex tourism ideas. Stop messaging me about mail order brides. It's weird boys!