We get a LOT of messages from single males who have never been in the swinger’s or BDSM scene, and are clueless about how to communicate, how to behave, how to get invited, how the events go, etc… Let’s talk about it.

• The Clubhouse only allows a maximum of 3 single males into events. You are 1 of 100 single guys who want to come… how do you set yourself apart?

1) You have basic common courtesy. You don’t text or call us at 3AM on a Sunday night…

2) READ the entire event post. Don’t text questions that are already clearly answered in the post.

3) Don’t ask to reserve a spot but say you can’t pay until Friday. No. That’s not cute.

4) Know your basic lifestyle terms and definitions… a single male in the swinger world is typically known as a “Bull”. You are NOT a unicorn. You are NOT a swinger, unless you are in a relationship in which you swing. In the BDSM world, you might be a Dom or a sub, or a switch, or a masochist, or a sadist, or whatever else that you identify with. If you have no clue, try taking the assessment at bdsmtest.org to get a baseline and you can educate yourself from there.

5) Learn how to rsvp in a mature way. Texts or messages that just say “hey” or “interested” will be ignored.

6) Don’t text us with your age, height, and dick size asking if you can come.

7) Don’t text us a picture of your dick or use a dick pic as your profile pic. Gross, not classy, and immature.

8) You read an event flyer that says “professional single males with their own toys”… what does that mean? This means experienced Doms or others with their own impact play devices, bondage tools, shibari tools, etc.

9) You have references. Single males who are recommended by a member, or requested by a couple who is attending the same event are much more likely to be welcomed in.

• You’re allowed in! Now what should you expect?

1) DRESS TO IMPRESS!! Be classy. Clean. Look your best!

2) We are a BYOB and 420 friendly club. But you are expected to control your drinking! Anyone over intoxicated will be asked to leave.

3) This is not a pay to play kind of place. We cater primarily to couples in the lifestyle. Yes sex is allowed at our events, but in NO way are you guaranteed pussy. There are groups and other places out there that host gang bangs, free use and glory hole events, but The Clubhouse does NOT host those types of parties. We offer a safe, private environment for couples and lifestyle enthusiasts to enjoy living out their intimate fantasies and meeting others of a similar mindset.

4) You should fully understand explicit consent and respect. The Clubhouse offers more freedom and opportunity for unique lifestyle experiences than most places, because our members follow the ethics of consent and respect.