I have a feeling I know the answer but I want external pov.

My gf for a year is in an open online relationship with me, we’ve met twice irl, she has a lot of issues including DID, I have my own issues and we share some diagnosis’.

She wasn’t bad at first but for a while we had been having alot of arguments and I also found out she’s been pushing our shared partners boundaries and that I’m the exception, eventually this led to me trying to break up with her because this mixed with her refusal to seek therapy and refusal to admit we have relationship issues. I tried to break up with her but it turned into a long argument I tried to say it would be just a break but due to all her issues I was worried she’d do something stupid and while she says she doesn’t threaten to off herself she basically implies it and so I was really tired and so I gave in and just stayed with her.

now idk what to do it’s so confusing and weird it’s like all the arguments stopped for the most part and idk I just wish she’d pick a side instead of going back and forth on how she acts I know it’s tied to her did but she won’t or can’t communicate about it so I can’t even navigate the situation