I've been re-watching 16 and P episodes and the early seasons of Teen Mom lately, and Jesus God, Deb is a bigger piece of work than I initially realized. I'm not excusing Farrah's explosive behavior around her, but I can understand why she has such salty feelings toward her mother.

• In her 16&P episode, Farrah was asking her doctor legit questions about labor and Deb shut her down, calling it gross. Not to mention that Deb initially tried to nope out of being in the delivery room with her, knowing full-well that the typical first choice support person (the baby's dad) wouldn't be there and that Farrah didn't exactly have a legion of back-up support people to choose from.

• If the story is true that Deb forced Farrah to have Sophia (by denying her an abortion), then it's pretty damn shitty that Deb was so "meh" about helping Farrah with Sophia in her 16&P episode. At one point Farrah asked if Deb could help a little with Sophia at night and Deb basically dismissed her. Like, I get that it's Farrah's baby, but the dad isn't around, newborns are beyond exhausting, and YOU pushed your daughter to have the kid.Takes some major cajones to still deny your own daughter the help she needs after all that.

• Related to the previous point, she was all on Farrah's ass for wanting to go out all the time in the early Teen Mom days. You forced your teenage daughter to have a kid she didn't want, then seem surprised that she still wants to act like a teenager??? I am glad that Farrah did eventually start spending more time with Sophia, but I can't say I fully blame her for wanting to go out.

• After Farrah decided to move to an apartment and not tell her parents where she lived because HER MOM HIT HER IN THE FACE AND BUSTED HER LIP, Debra was so fucking manipulative. Always crying on the phone about how she missed Sophia, blah blah blah. Well bitch, maybe you shouldn't have committed domestic violence.

• Deb and Farrah went to a therapy session where they discussed Derek's death and Deb was MASSIVELY dismissive of Farrah's feelings about it. Luckily the therapist repeatedly called her out on it, but sheesh lady, show some empathy once in a while.

• Fast forward to more recent episodes, and Debra is just as insane, only in different ways. Because Farrah has all that $$$ now, Deb has changed her strategy to be sickly sweet and pretends none of the abusive stuff ever happened. Just a big happy family, y'all. /s

All of that stuff above combined with some other abusive backstory from Farrah's childhood really makes me think that Farrah would be so much better off without her mother in her life. For the record, I don't think MyKole is a stellar parent, especially when he was trying to get Farrah to reconcile with her mother after the DV incident because "it's faaaaaaaamily." And he was just as accountable as her mother when it came to Farrah's childhood. But considering he and Deb are divorced now and he's seemed to normalize a bit, he's leaps ahead of his ex. And he's always been more level-headed than his ex or daughter, so I think Farrah does have some benefit being around him. But Deb? Endless drama.

Again, I'm not excusing the way Farrah has acted because ultimately, adults have the full capacity to control how they react to situations, but I do understand the ever-burning anger she has toward her mother. This week's sneak peek actually broke my heart a bit because it's clear that Farrah is still very much hurt by her mother's actions, and Deb had the freaking gall to deny ever hitting Farrah. I have a daughter of my own, and would consider myself an absolute failure of a parent if my kid had such lasting effects because of poor decisions I made.