Was I in the wrong at all though?

I went to his shop to get new tattoos. He’s tattooed me once before my friends are friends with him and have raved about him.

During the session, I invited him to lunch with me sometime and he accepted. We finished up my sternum tattoo and when I went to go look at it in the mirror (topless still), he mentioned it was hot.

We then picked out the font for my butt tattoo and he applied the stencil. He then had me bend over in front of him while topless (rather than lay down on the table) and began tattooing me. When he was done he smacked my ass. He also mentioned that I was having him do “all these kinky-ass tattoos.”

Afterwards, I went outside to smoke a cigarette and he came to sit with me. He mentioned he’d pick me up and take me out sometime soon. We texted later that day and he said he had to figure some stuff out first and to give him a few days.

Today, he reached out and let me know he’s in a relationship and I let him know I wasn’t coming back and to refund me for my prepaid session. He got extremely upset and started blaming me for what happened (that I’d flirted with him by asking for tattoos on my privates and “coochie”). I responded that I would have done those with or without him and that at the end of the day, he escalated it by smacking my ass.

He started arguing with me again saying that I was the one escalating it right now because I wouldn't go to him again. He also pointed out that he had done a lot of work on me and I responded that we still had two hours left in my session and to just refund that. On top of that, he called me immature again for not coming back to him and I explained that I was setting a boundary and was uncomfortable seeing him in the future.

Eventually, he agreed to just refund me and I promised I’d not mention anything to anyone. That was the end of it.

But was I at fault?

I trusted him though since he’s big in the sober community, a friend of a friend, and has decades of experience. It was my first time going to a male artist.

I also feel guilty about getting the refund and not going back, but I’m not comfortable with him finishing my sternum tattoo and seeing me topless again.

Plus, I didn’t understand why he was so insistent that I return.

Sorry for rambling or if things weren’t clear. Just a bit discombobulated right now.