I (male) am seriously learning tango, and now I'm trying to learn the followers role too. Ideally, I would like to be able to comfortably dance with any partner, regardless whether the partner is a good dancer or not.

As a leader I feel that I figured this out, it doesn't matter much for me that a follower is not balanced, doesn't have a good embrace, etc. I will still be able to comfortably lead her and enjoy dancing with her in the milonga.

However, when I follow, so far the situation is different. I find it very hard to follow beginner leaders, when their step has no energy, or when they lead the step incorrectly. Sometimes I just do the step because I know what to do rather than following the lead (otherwise the leaders would complain that I'm not following).

A good leader has no problem leading me various advanced steps, and although he can point a few improvements, overall he says he likes the way I follow. But with beginner leaders I struggle.

Followers, how did your find your way out of this situation?