I dance tango since a few years but lately I am having a problem that is becoming more and more annoying. Milongas here (Switzerland) are more and more un-balanced with much more women than men. It also happens that a big share of men is dancing only with few (top-skilled) women, several consecutive times, at the same milonga. The result is that many women barely dance during a milonga and of course this leads to some frustration around. Personally, if I see a woman that I have the impression is sitting for too long I invite her, if every man would do the same with 2 or 3 women for each milonga, it would make everybody happy and I don't think it is the end of the world. The real problem is that, since I act this way, some women feel like they are allowed to ask me directly to dance with them. The most discrete come to me and start talking, when there is a cortina they stop talking and stare at me without a word. In the end I feel obliged to invite. Other are more arrogant and here it gets also funny. One pretended me to invite her because she has a list of dancers with whom she wants do dance each time. Looks like that unfortunately I am on that list. Another one came behind me while I was inviting another woman for the last tanda. No excuse, I was clearly making a mirada. She taps on my shoulder and when I turn she says "this is the last tanda, we have to dance together". And yesterday, I have heard one saying to her friend that if she does not dance enough she is allowed to ask some men directly, "men like him for instance" pointing at me.

Of course we can also write a book on how badly some men invite, but I cannot hide that I am more and more frustrated about this situation. Let's share thoughts, advices or other funny stories.