Hey y'all! I'm Benji, transmasc (he/they), 8 years on T, 5 years post top surgery, and nearly 2 years post hysto. I am done getting surgeries. I'm 5'4", generally around 160lbs, lots of piercings and tattoos. I'm on the west coast of the U.S. Please read the whole post, I will know if you haven't.

After a bit of perusing with folks on here I've been able to more clearly identify what I'm looking for. I'm looking for another trans person between the ages of 20-35 (firm on that) that I click very well with conversationally to try out a dom/sub dynamic for the first time. I have a lot to say and thoughtful reciprocation is really important to me. Therapy is also a big deal to me, as is open, honest, and safe communication.

I am very new to kink. I am engaging with this intending to work on healing and unlearning a lot of toxic shame beliefs I hold about myself and how I'm a sexual human person.

I am switchy, with a strong preference for being submissive. I also thoroughly enjoy being a service top. I have a huge oral fixation, and my biggest kink is deepthroating and throat fucking. I am also very into praise, and don't mind it with a bit of playful humiliation sprinkled in. I otherwise enjoy kissing and making out, dirty talking, impact play, scratches/hickeys/marking, edging and orgasm control, choking/breath play, restraints, toys, and probably more. I don't know much about pup play yet but I'm very interested in learning more about and engaging with it. I consider myself to be sexually adventurous and willing to try almost anything once. Almost anything. My hard limits are scat, sounding, age play, race play, zoophilia, necrophilia, possibly more. If you're curious if something is a limit just ask!

Outside of kink I enjoy creating art, playing video games, going on outdoor adventures with my friends and dog, engaging in meaningful discussions about mental health, traveling, reading and writing, music and TV.

If you've read through all of this and you think you might be the perfect match, please send me a DM telling me what emotional maturity looks like or means to you. Or comment below if you need me to reach out to you (and I'll tell you what emotional maturity looks like/means to me).