The basics:

Hello! I’m a 22 year old transfem. I’m a dom-leaning switch, and I have a lot of experience as a hypno-dom. But I don’t have much of an outlet in terms of subbing and, as a result, I’m looking for a dom!

Texting is fine, but an interest in voice calls is non-negotiable. Hearing people’s voices is a massive part of both domming and being dommed for me. And I love using my own voice. I'm interested in trans women and cis women.

About myself:

I have somewhat limited experience getting dommed. I’ve had a couple experiences but not really enough to “Figure myself out”. I’m actively looking to try new stuff and experience new things in general.

Thanks to my experience, I consider myself pretty good at communication in general when it comes to BDSM-related stuff. So, just because I’m still figuring out what I like doesn’t mean I’m passive. In fact, I’d say my experience domming has made it easier for me to accommodate people. I know what I’d if I were in the doms position. I’m proactive and directly communicative. I also consider myself pretty confident.

I'm hesitant to share much identifiable information, and as such I'd only want to share pictures once I've really gotten to know someone and if they're trustworthy.

Outside of kink, my hobbies include (But aren’t limited to): Tabletop, amateur voice acting, and animated stuff. I also consider myself extrovert-leaning. I love meeting new people and learning about them!

What I like:

My interests in subbing are, significantly, based around emotion. Both softer and harder stuff seems to appeal to me on a psychological level. Though in the past I have had a sexual reaction to it, so I know I can still enjoy it on that level too lol.

When it comes to softer stuff, I like the feeling of being taken care of, of being comforted, of being given instructions and following them obediently.

When it comes to harder stuff, I like things that induce high emotion. Fearplay, aggression, catharsis. Eg, a dom raising their voice. Something about that kind of thing is extremely satisfying for me. Though I’m still figuring out my limits, so taking it a little bit slow, having a safeword. I’m still figuring the reason for this out.

I also really like things that alter my mindset into something more vulnerable and trusting. Letting my guard down. Whether that leads to something soft and comfy or that vulnerability being taken advantage of. Examples include: Petplay, littlespace/cgl/agere, etc.

As for more specific kinks, I’ve found I enjoy being forced to communicate non-verbally. I enjoy roleplay. And gender-based stuff, eg feminization. I also really love "fake" soft-domming, as in domination that manipulatively presents itself as soft and sweet while focusing on harsh kinks or leading to something harsher.

I also have a lovense! I’m still getting used to it, but I like anal and I like being “physically overpowered”, in a sense. And long-distance toys like that are the best way to do it online.

Keep in mind I’m still exploring, I want to try new things! I’d love to hear about others kinks and interests. And none of the above is mandatory if it could make you uncomfortable.

Who I'm looking for:

Although it’s not a hard requirement, I have a very heavy preference for feminine voices. If you’re not sure if you fit that category, it definitely doesn’t hurt to ask. For example, if you’re a trans girl, you don’t necessarily need to have completed voice training. You’d just need to show that you’ve put in some effort.

In general, voice-based stuff is a hard requirement for me. I don’t really have interest in texting-based kink outside a very occasional thing. As a result, I need a sample of your voice before I can show any real interest in a potential partner.

I’m ideally looking for a dom interested in something long-term. Of course, any decision like that would need to be made after significant time, trying things out and seeing how we feel. Giving ourselves time to process if we work for each other. But it should be a possibility we’re considering.

That being said, I really like people who show confidence and know what they want. Even if what they want is, like me, to just see where things go naturally.

As for what I’m definitely NOT interested in, I have no interest in cis men. (Including “Femboys”) If you’re either of those categories, and you message me, I’m gonna assume you haven’t actually read this, and I will probably just hit ignore. Enby’s and trans men are welcome to message, but whether we gel would be on a case-by-case basis.

Consent is very important to me, and I’d need to be pretty firm about that. As a result, I’m looking for someone who also takes it seriously.

If you're interested:

Send me a DM or message with a sample of your voice (Such as with Vocaroo), as well as what kind of thing you’re interested in. Or any questions you might have.

Might not respond immediately, but I will when I get the chance. Sharing a sample of my own voice isn't allowed on this subreddit, but you can look at my post history for examples and I'd be willing to record short snippets on request.