I felt that everyone wanted an update since my recent posts regarding new friends at the gym, and now that the weekend is over, I do have some bad news and good news.

I'll start with the bad news, just to get that out of the way. Unfortunately, a lot of you called it right. The gay swoldier I befriended at the gym turned out to have some ulterior motives to try to make a move on me, an unwitting straight guy who was just trying to make a new guy friend in a new area. It all happened through texting where we were discussing our recent dating experiences, and he goes, "Have you ever thought about doing anything with a guy? Or have you already?" I told him no and that I wasn't interested since I'm into women. He responded by trying to mask it with flattery by saying how men would be more than happy to have me on their "team," and I initially brushed it off and tried to steer the conversation away to something else. He began talking about his gym workout and how he did leg day, and asked if I wanted to see his progress picture. On his Instagram, his progress pictures are all very tame, shirtless at best. He sends a mirror selfie with an erect dick, and then replies back, "Sorry, was a little hard but wanted to show my leg progress best." quickly followed up with "But maybe you'll see something you like." I replied back that I was disappointed and had already made it clear I was not into men. I told him I didn't want to engage with him further and said it would be best if we didn't speak to one another going forward even at the gym. Blocked his number. So far, only seen him once at a distance and plan to keep it that way. I want to also make it clear this isn't a "gay guy" thing. It's a "guys in general thing" and how men, both straight, gay, bi, whatever have a terrible habit of not respecting boundaries and sending unsolicited nudes. I know how all you women feel!

Moving on to the good news, I went out for a bite to eat with the older woman from my gym. We had a really really good time and it washed the bad taste off my mouth from the previous experience. We both talked about how we enjoy working out and eating healthy, but not to the point where it's the only thing we care about. I really liked talking to her about our lives outside of the gym. She broached the subject of dating, and we both shared some of our recent date fail stories. When she asked what I was hoping to find, I told her ideally I'd like a relationship someday, but I'm also open to all kinds of other connections I can grow from. She said she said she completely understands that perspective and asked if I might be interested in getting to know one another even more better. We've been texting and flirting since then (and we may have consentually exchanged some swimsuit/underwear photos, and she looks great,) and have another date planned this week where she invited me over her place to watch a movie.