Given the pandemic, I'm not looking to meet up right away. But I'd love to start chatting over Reddit, text, etc., to plan for a time to meet.

I am a 33-year-old submissive guy with very little sexual experience. I’m happy to get into specifics, but suffice it to say I have not had much of a sex life for most of my adult life.

I am looking for a dominant woman or a couple willing to show me the ropes, literally and figuratively. My goal, basically, is to make up for a lifetime of relative celibacy by being kinky and openminded. I am especially interested in becoming proficient at oral sex with both women and men. My limits are scat, kissing or rimming a man, CBT, extreme pain, and blood. I’m not into humiliation, and I expect everyone to be respectful and considerate of boundaries.

While I'm primarily looking for kinky fun, I think all relationships are more meaningful if there is mutual affection. I would love to be friends or even more than friends, but if you're only interested in sex, that's fine too. If you are married or in a committed relationship, I expect that you will only play with your partner's permission. I don't get involved with cheating.

About me: I’m 5’8 and 150 pounds, and I am mainly attracted to people who are similarly height-weight proportionate. Non-kink interests include cooking, baseball, movies, and dogs. My leftist politics are very important to me. Ideally I’d like to connect with people who share my values. I live in northern New Jersey (Bergen County) and cannot host. I have a car and access to public transit, and I'm willing to travel about 90 minutes (which includes NYC).

Send me a message with a little about yourself (and your partner, if applicable) if you think we might be compatible. Please include a picture in your first handful of messages. I'd rather save us both the hassle of exchanging tons of messages only to learn that there's no attraction.