There’s nothing left after my wife’s affair. She’s bother line narcissist, quick to anger and never wrong, if even the littlest thing isn’t done her way she gets disproportionately angry. Even her affair that caused me to have a break down because before the affair was revealed she created a narrative that I treated her so badly implying I was abusive. I’ve never been abusive, she may not love me or like me anymore I was never abusive infact I was on the receiving end of some violent episode from her. I asked 3 times during the break up was their another man? The first time she replied furiously “this is why I hate you blah blah blah” so I believed her and blamed myself and believed I turned into a monster.

Then a few months later she had to confess she was having an affair, she had to confess because the man she was having an affair with had another woman and they both starting fighting with each other, so she had to come clean, she was afraid we would be approached by her if we were around town or out somewhere. There’s more to the story I don’t know about. Unbelievably she still has the nerve to to claim she had done nothing wrong and I was never nice to her.

I actually hate her guts but I try to be civil every day. There is no love or affection there anymore from both sides. We have an 8 year old daughter no way I can leave her, she’s the number one reason I’m still here. Secondly if I walk out the door I’ll be homeless.

We have a “forever home” leased off the government (social house) secure for life both or names on the lease we can’t force either out. I don’t know what to do? Maybe just wait her out until she finds a new boyfriend?

This post turned into a bit of a vent, they say focus yourself but that’s easier said than done.

Don’t know want to do. Life is hell