Long post, you have been warned.

Am I dreaming and on my own here? I’m Bi or Demisexual (who needs a label anyway), recently 21, very very single and I don’t think I’m “ugly” as such but I’m also realistic and know that I am not even remotely a “stud” or “hunk” or whatever people’s chosen word for hotties is. I’m a fairly average guy, I have plenty of typically masculine interests (cars, building stuff, gardening etc.), but I’m also not a rough as guts “bloke” I’m softer than that. I enjoy cooking and cleaning, looking after other people and I’m quite submissive I guess. I’m tall at 6’5ish(?), I have long hair, glasses, a decent sized tattoo with plans for more, I have body hair I’m not going to lie and say I’m a trim, hairless and perfect twink because I’m not. I have strong values, I don’t tolerate cheaters, liars, thieves, I don’t do drugs at all and never have, I don’t smoke or vape, I do drink occasionally (when I do it’s quite a heavy sesh and a carton can disappear easily). I guess my question is, where do I go to find a real connection. Don’t suggest pubs or clubs, it’s usually just overly picky, ego maniacs who want a one night stand or “summer fling”, I want someone to build a life with I guess, that’s in it for the long haul and just loves me for me and wants that same love and trust, emotional bond and affection in return. Grindr is a dumpster fire, Tinder is just as bad and not nearly as many LGBT guys or girls there, dating sites are too toxic and “old people-y” so I’m out of options I guess but I’m open to suggestions. OR if this is you, send me a message I’m always happy to chat and see where things go platonically first without sexual expectations.