So basically, I hate my mother. I'm 28 and I've cut her out of my life completely. I like, legitimately do not like her, but I also imagine this isn't very healthy attitude to have, and I feel like I owe it to my future children to have a relationship. Certainly, I don't think her being a poor mother was entirely because she was a single mother, however I think at the very least it's a good place for me to start.

Anyway, she messaged me out of nowhere and deep down inside I know that my hate is irrational, so I thought I might try an approach of empathy, cause I'm really not sure if I want her back in my life anymore, but I also want to try.

Does anyone have any books they could recommend for me to read which might possibly help me understand what she went through?