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I was favorited by a 24 year old and we texted and talked for a week. She made several requests for $$$ which I ignored. I let her know that once we met, I would have her allowance with me. I drive to her area, get a Marriott and we exchange texts for two hours. She keeps stalling and saying she is on the way. At 10:00 she vanishes completely. I get an apology text the next morning and asking to meet again. I let her know I am checking out by 2:00 and headed back home - if she shows, I'll consider staying the weekend. More stalling and plans offered, to be ghosted again.. this is a new game I've never seen before. yes, I checked out - blocked her - and drove home.
The meeting was at a local restaurant - not a motel.
When dinner did not happen.. the next option was brunch. I have clearly stated no sex was requested nor expected. To quote Jack... "Is this crystal clear?"
- we talked on the phone
- we had two "meetings" on teams to get to know each other
- I verified her availability before driving up
- I confirmed I would have a gift on arrival - not before.
Have you read any of my comments - Jesus - NO - I DONT HAVE SEX NOT EXPECT IT ON A FIRST DATE... for the people in back - did you hear that - \
I am in Lincoln Nebraska... this is NOT Manhattan NYC... completely different world
I flew to Canada in 2000 and was with a lady I met via whatever site it was, back then. We would have been married - but she had cancer and died in our second year.
When you drive three hours to a distant town - do you book a motel or sleep in your car ? My error - if we must clarify - is that I didn't state that all M&G are platonic for me.
I actually verified before getting on the road . She already knew there was a 250.00 M&G gift, due to her "terrible finances" & I was willing to offer that - she didn't ask.
Plan B was eat a good meal, drive home, and spend the evening with a glass of champagne and cheese board.
I was a attempting to be considerate of the whole "pandemic" crisis and avoiding sending $$$ upfront. I understand people have had a hard time and her talking on the phone persuaded me she was genuine.. I ignored the flags I normally instablock with and paid the price. I am still confused over the "don't leave.. I'm taking a 1/2 day to meet you" then ghosting again. (She even picked the Mexican resturant.. I'll admit the food was good)
Lesson learned - I am spoiled by my experiences. In 2006 I met my first SB and she was with me for seven years, I tried again in 2015 and we stayed together for over 3 years. Since Covid hit... it has been different for me
I am glad you have never fucked up. Move on
I do not expect or accept sex on a first set. The meet was for food at a local resturant.
Once again - the meet was for dinner at a local restaurant then brunch at a Mexican restaurant,
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Being we talked on the phone - video called - and spoke during the day - that wasn't the case.