I'm relatively new to sugar dating (only a few months). It all started when my gf's boyfriend gifted me six pairs of stilettos to model (he had a shoe thing). I had a blast and thought I might explore this for a while. I'm more interested in having experiences that I wouldn't normally have (great dining, entertainment (when we can do that again), some travel, a bit of fantasy play, etc.), than I am with straight allowances. Unfortunately, I've mostly found the "pump & dump" SDs or those who propose to "leave money on the nightstand" for me (no shaming, but I personally find it distasteful). I'm pretty specific on my profile about preferring experiences over allowances, so I wonder if this is just a normal thing, or if there is a way I could express myself better.