This may not be the right place for this story -- but please read it and decide for yourself. I also posted this on more of a regular dating advice sub as well.

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I'm 34, about to be 35 soon. My last serious relationship was 2.5 years ago. Since then, I've been single on purpose (Long story involving the last relationship and some of the reasons it went downhill). Began to use Tinder, Bumble, and the like to go out, meet cool people, and have fun while doing it. Additionally, because I make a good income, I also dipped my toe in the water of the pool of sugar dating. Each and every avenue has it's good sides and bad (just like anything).

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About 6 weeks ago I meet a girl looking for sugar. She's not the first girl I've met with/sugar dated, and we lay down what we want and what we are looking for. At the time, I was seeing two other people and she was aware of that. Since then, we've had a great time. Talking, hanging out, going out, etc. As always with sugar dating, there IS an allowance and gifts, but there were times were we would hangout and do something yet she was insistent that she not get the allowance. Texts/Snapchat increased, and everything has been moving along swimmingly. We enjoy a lot of the same stuff, play the same instrument, and the like. Sometimes it felt more like vanilla dating than sugar -- Even the other day, she wanted me to meet her friends that live in the area, so it was really nice to meet them. I don't look my age and could easily pass as someone hanging with the group that should be there. One of her friends told me that she expected someone older, wearing a suit, and acting all business-like. And was happy that she was mistaken. I enjoyed the compliment from the friend. My SB wasn't shy about any public displays of affection either.

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I am not a jealous person by any means. Obviously, as I stated, at the start of this I said I was seeing a few people. And in the beginning I'd hear stories of her college hook ups (which were pretty hot to hear about - she IS 19 after all and fully enjoying the college experience). This weekend she plans to go visit some friends in another state. Friends she hasn't gotten to see in a long time. I've heard plenty of stories about them. One of the guys totally has a crush on her, and she knows it. From the way she talks about this friend, and the way she tells me about their interactions, I think she likes him too. Talking to her today, it sounds like she totally has plans to hook up with him as it's been "a long time coming". Like I said, I generally don't mind nor care about that kind of stuff -- but today... I have that small feeling of jealousy welling up in me. Anxiety and awkwardness. I truly wouldn't care about the hook up -- but I do seem to care about them being into one another. For some reason that bothers me.

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But what can I do about that? We aren't dating in the regular sense of the word, but we have seemed to adjust our relationship since it's inception (from only sugar to more of a relaxed friend/dating thing). I don't know how to feel about this, or what to say (if anything), or what I can do. So... I'm here. Looking for advice.

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It's probably slim, but has anyone ever been in a similar situation? What have you done?

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Hearing this story, what do you think? Was it doomed from the start? Or am I just thinking about things too much and should just not say anything and see what happens?

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Please -- no advice that includes "dropping her", or taking a break, or anything like that. I wouldn't want to do that as we do get along so well, and from her side of things (I can only assume) she would go down, have a good time, probably have sex, and come back like it was nothing and go back to seeing me. I definitely don't want to put limits on anyone that I'm not in a serious relationship with.

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I don't know...

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You're more than welcome to ask more questions if I didn't give enough detail. I'd appreciate any replies (private messages or public replies are both fine). And I double hope to figure something out with regards to these silly feelings. Thanks for reading!