Yesterday, my SD took me to a midday ballet performance. It was absolutely beautiful and in a historic opera house. The majority of the crowd is octogenarians, but I enjoyed it.

During intermission, my SD started telling me a very intense story about how his ex- in-laws crossed a boundary with him and his ex wife when planning their wedding nearly 30 years ago. We were in a very tightly packed theater.

He already is sort of dramatic, but his telling of this story got him upset. His voice slowly starts getting louder and louder, he kept getting closer to me the more he got agitated, and then loudly says “I don’t know if you’re deaf or stupid” (this was part of the recounting of the story).

I could feel people looking at us and I asked him to back up, but I was also dying of embarrassment that these people thought my partner was talking to me like that. He has done this before in private - gotten really aggressive and loud with me when recounting a tale (that I had zero to do with), and I asked him to back off then too. When this happened a second time… it just ruined him for me.

There were some other red flags, like his adult children don’t speak to him and didn’t call on Father’s Day - they’re completely to blame and “ungrateful.” He also was obsessed with recounting these stories of when something happens and he has “set the record straight.” Has a karma list of people who have wronged him… just weird stuff.

He probably needs a therapist more than a SB, and but I just broke up with my first SD. 😢