TLDR: Simple ways to make it easy for local SDs/SBs to find you if they happen to be active on or searching Reddit.

This is not meant to be a replacement for Seeking and other apps/avenues you are using.

However, there's no harm in making it easy for others to find you if it turns out a great potential partner happens to run a search on a whim.

My SBF and I met right here in SLF, and it's been an amazing experience. We both feel lucky to have found each other. 🥰

There are a few things that can contribute to finding someone here (while respecting the rules) - or, in my case... making it easy for someone to find you.

1. Add your location to your profile (or username). You can add your city/state/country to your bio or put it in your profile banner as a photo.

This way, those who like a comment or post of yours can immediately see where you are located when they check out your profile. You could also add a bit about yourself or what you are looking for in your bio.

1. Go to the search bar of any sugar forums you're in and type in your city, then comment on any posts that are relevant.

He found me because I commented on a post related to our city, so he reached out.

1. Stay active in sugar forums.

Whether it's responding to a "where are you from" post or giving support, kudos, advice, or asking questions... post and comment on other conversations.

Those who align with your character or are attracted to your personality may reach out to you.

Additionally, you can observe the posts and comments of others and reply or reach out to those who pique your interest. Lead with location so that it's a quick filter if they're on the other side of the world.

Keep it organic and authentic, (though you could post now and then in the meetup forums that allow ads - they'll be useful in your post history).

If it's easy to see your location and you're active in the forums, you'll increase your chances of crossing paths with someone interesting to you or interested in you.

1. Handle chatting and setting the M&G the same as you would on any online platform to reduce the likelihood of timewasters. If they can't meet you in real life within a reasonable amount of time, politely invite them to reach out to schedule when they can.

That said... you can learn A LOT about a person with their post and comment history. So, I would be much more cautious with those who don't have any.

When my SBF originally reached out, he didn't have history in this forum, but he used his regular Reddit account. It had years of activity. A mere glance at his profile made it clear that he was likely who he said he was. Also, he reached out on the 4th of the month, and we met for drinks by the 12th - so we both made it clear that we were interested in something real.

Even when something is unlikely, it doesn't mean we can't set ourselves up for the possibility.

Cheers to sweet surprises!

🥂🍬🔥🫦