My stepdad for ~half of my life growing up was a CEO of an extremely successful company. He and my mom were not sugar partners, he was essentially a just a mega rich boyfriend. He gave her allowance, showered her with gifts and insanely romantic dates (helicopter rental to isolated waterfall in Maui for a picnic), flew her all over the world, waterfront mansions in Maui and Lake Tahoe, boat, plane, sent us to private school, even when they broke up he left her enough money to live with us independently in a major city for several years where she was unemployed and then worked a 60k a year salary job. I’m incredibly grateful for everything positive he did for us, the most important being paying my mom’s attorney fees to get custody of my sister and I.

But there was an extremely dark side. Seeing the way women acted around him literally in front of my mom’s face…and he was very codependent and controlling and jealous and became abusive so she left…people also taking every opportunity that they were over to have a coke and alcohol fueled rager into the evening….It really taught me a lot about the true power and cost of wealth. He enjoyed being generous but the way so many people acted was foul and I think he became so disconnected from relationship dynamics that are not structured around money and power. He now exclusively has had long term SB’s that he married.

So, now with sugar dating. I am grateful I had that experience because a lot of luxury things are normalized for me in the sense that I’m not easily manipulated by them and thankfully my mom passed her class and good taste onto me 😌. I am also extremely grateful for all of the experiences I was privileged to have due to this person. But! Also I am very wary of people with very extreme wealth. This was justified to me recently by an experience with another 100 mil man who was an acquaintance and then became really close with my best friend. He offered her a 6 figure sum to open a business and told her it was “nothing” to him. He obviously wanted to have sex with her but that was never discussed (they were just friends) and then completely stopped talking to her when she didn’t. He has an insane ego, assumes every woman he meets wants to sleep with him, told me my job was useless and that society trusts science too much. Sabotaged his long term relationship. Anyways not fun to be around but he also wasn’t like that until he became a public figure/extremely wealthy.

I also do not think wealthy people are inherently evil lol otherwise I wouldn’t be pursuing dating them. But since I joined this sub I’m really curious….

SD’s, are there any of you who started sugar dating because of how extreme wealth changed your relationships in a weird way? I guess this is only true if you’re not from inherited wealth.

SB’s, how has sugar dating affected how you see luxury and also how you see very wealthy people that you meet non romantically?