It’s been almost a year since my SD and I first met, and I feel like the spark between us has started to fade. Don’t get me wrong—I’m still attracted to him, and we both care deeply about each other. But when we’re together, it often feels… boring—at least for me. I’m not sure how he feels. That said, I do miss him when he’s not around.

How can we make our time together more exciting? We are both inherently lazy people. I live in NYC, but I don’t enjoy going to places just to see things—like museums, for example, or Broadway shows, and even going out to restaurants isn’t that much exciting. So I’m not sure what else we could do. We’ve taken trips together and even had a threesome once, but our day-to-day interactions, especially our conversations, often feel a bit dull. Any suggestions?