I’m really sorry if this sounds ignorant, it might just be my anxiety, but I have been texting a potential SD and in under 24 hours it’s like he’s obsessed with me and I don’t have positive feelings towards it. We haven’t even met yet, we have plans for a date on Friday night. If I go for a while without texting him back he just spams my name “_____”.

I explained to him I go for walks without my phone, and I do other things without my phone and I’m trying not to be glued to my phone more than I already am because it’s not healthy and he suggested I work on doing the opposite because he wants affection and attention from me. He also said something to me earlier which alarmed me he said “I see you as more than an SB, is that fine with you?” And i asked him what do you mean by that, and he said “thinking of the bigger picture while I still provide for you.” I didn’t know what to say so I told him he can think what he wants but not to be unrealistic, that I have not even met him in person yet and I don’t want to rush things, and I made it clear I am not trying to look for potential marriage or anything like that. I’m not trying to manipulate anyone that has obsessive behavior nor have I ever wanted to, I’ve had stalkers before and don’t want it again, the money isn’t worth feeling scared 💔 he said there is something about me that is different and he is addicted to me, that other girls have sent him messages but now he’s only talking to me. He keeps asking me to say I am his and I just redirect to that we haven’t even met yet , and I will not promise him I won’t go on dates with others. Just a few minutes ago he texted me saying “Your attention span is so small towards me, honestly I am starting to worry now”. I have texted him on and off all day since the morning and I’m always polite. Not just one or two times, many conversations.it’s like he is spazzing if I don’t text him back immediately. I asked him what he does for work and he says he’s a realtor. He was even upset with me that he supposedly left a meeting earlier so he could talk to me more and was mad I wasn’t chatting him up more when he sabotaged his meeting when I never asked him to do that. I’m embarrassed for even asking this because I used to think I was pretty good at spotting red flags and then blocking/leaving people, I’m usually the person that spots red flags that my friends don’t see in the guys they like. I’ve never had this problem before , only the opposite where guys are flaky and we just don’t chat anymore even if we planned to meet. Even when I had SDs in the past that I saw weekly they didn’t blow up my phone every minute of the day, we would check in until we made plans to meet again and no one ever indicated to me that I was too distant from them. I have had arrangements before and I’m used to being laid back and not being clingy. he says this is his first arrangement. I’m nervous he is delusional and he thinks maybe if he just woos me we won’t be SD/SB anymore and have a fairytale. Is this something to be concerned about or am I just overthinking it?