I currently have 8 POTs that I’m talking to off of sites (SA and SB) and I have m g scheduled with 4 had m/g with 1 so far with a 2nd date planned this week.

The 1 I have met is definitely serious about me. We do both have busy schedules and can make time for 1-2 outings a week. He wants to do normal stuff like dinners, seeing sports games, hikes etc but he also wants to do full or multi day activities as dates like road trips, skiing, biking…I like all of those things but I’m anxious about consistently matching his energy with my own schedule.

Of the other 4 I have m g’s scheduled with I’m already very much into two of them physically…as in I already want to jump their bones 😅 and we have good banter/rapport so far. Another thing though is one of these two lives very close to me…as in he sent me the view from his house and I could tell exactly where it is and walk by regularly. He doesn’t know where I live of course except for in the same neighborhood. It is a large enough neighborhood where there are different Facebook “Buy Nothing” groups that are based on your street lol. Small enough where he admitted that he’s seen me at a local cafe a few times. This seems like it could be really nice or really weird?

Overall, realistically I only have time for one. I want more of an SR so I’m of course taking into account many more things besides their financials. This will also be my first. I’m feeling the pressure.

SBs/SDs how do you choose? How should I communicate to avoid a situation where I lead someone on for too long? What are important things to consider along with what they like to do on dates, sexual compatibility, boundaries, etc. ?

ETA: by off of site I mean we have moved to talking over text as opposed to via the messengers on SA or SB