Hi everyone,

I just need to vent and would love to hear if anyone else has experienced something similar.

I’m my SD’s first SB, and he’s my first SD. We’ve been seeing each other for a little over two months now. He gives me an allowance, always surprises me with thoughtful gifts, and even helped me fix my car. Honestly, he’s been nothing but kind and generous to me.

On top of all that, he’s really attractive. When he first sent me a picture of himself, I was convinced it had to be a scam because he looked too good to be true.

But yesterday, something threw me off a little. For the first time, he showed me a picture of his ex-wife, and she’s absolutely stunning—blonde, perfect body, radiant smile—the whole package. I couldn’t help but start comparing myself to her.

It’s made me feel a little insecure. He’s very sporty, and now I’m considering hitting the gym because I feel like… a mollusk in comparison? I guess I’m questioning if he chose me because I’m his type or if I was just the first girl who didn’t think he was a scam.

Has anyone else felt this way before? How do you deal with these kinds of insecurities in your arrangement?

Thanks for reading—it feels good just to get this off my chest.