I'm not sure if it's just bad luck or something else. I've had years long SB/SD relationships previously. I left SA because it seemed like it had filled up with scammers, catfishers, and bots. I went over to SDM, hoping it would be better.

Not really, more of the same.

I've come to the conclusion that most of the women who set up SB profiles don't really have a clue about what being a SB means. I've had 2 recent potentials that I cut off. One gave me a sob story about how she lost her job, and is a broke single mom. Three times we made a date for a first meeting, and three times she NCNS, and the first 2 times it was "my babysitter no-showed" and then "my car broke down". Third time I texted goodbye, don't contact me again. And, she asked me to venmo money to pay for the car repair. I said no.

Second one had more promise. She's a graduate student. Smart as hell (that's a turn on for me). Similar drill, however. Last minute cancels and all kinds of promises for making it up to me. I'm not out any money, just aggravation.

I'm throwing in the towel. The fees for site registration are going up, the quality of the potentials is going into the toilet. I'm a simple guy. If you make an appointment to meet, you show up. You don't make a commitment to meet unless you're actually committed to following through. Maybe we'll vibe, maybe not. Either way, you show up. I don't expect intimacy on the first meeting--if it happens, I'm cool with it, but it's not required.

SB's, don't make promises you're not going to keep. It's really that simple.