We all get inundated on here with negative stories that I thought i would share my most recent positive SR experience. I have an SD that I have been seeing for 4 or 5 months and he is amazing. He is older(60’s), I’m in my 40’s. He is smart, generous, kind, funny, and very very kinky. He is a bit of a sadist in the bedroom but a service sadist, he likes to torture me with pleasure, which is perfect for me as orgasm torture is one of my favorite kinks. But, while he knows how to stimulate me sexually, he also knows how to stimulate my mind as well. We can talk for hours about all sorts of things from lighter topics to politics. I can be my whole self when I’m with him. It was his birthday on Friday and I spent Saturday night with him. He cooked me a great meal (his choice) and we ended up staying up and talking until 4 in the morning. We didn’t even end up playing, but he was still just as generous as always.

He is not my only SD because I know how fickle SRs can be and I don’t like putting all my eggs into one basket. However, he is the only SD at the moment that I feel fully confident in (or as confident as anyone can feel in the bowl) that he isn’t going anywhere.

I feel very lucky to have found him but it also didn’t happen overnight. In fact, I am very proactive in my searches for SDs. I don’t expect that I can just post my profile and my perfect SD will reach out. I am diligent with emailing and as frustrating as the process can be sometimes, I just remind myself that I will only get out of the bowl what I am willing to put in. But, I hope this story can be a reminder that finding a good SD and finding success in the bowl is possible…even if you’re a SB in your 40’s 😊.