so these are also newbie questions but i started i believe almost two months ago and am having a bit of a rocky start, ive asked a couple of experienced SB's a few questions and theyve always been super helpful but i thought id ask more to really get my head around some of these things lol

First ive been using cashapp and snap, i haven't had a problem yet with either but ive heard negative things but am worried about using something like else like telegram because it makes me feel paranoid that they can see my info lol, same with cashapp, also im not really sure how to use venmo or paypal yet so i haven't accepted them and im not really sure if i should stick to the basics or use others? also what exactly is a menu 😭 ive tried looking but none of the answers are specific enough for me to understand or know what to put 😔

second, i have had a problem with talking to new SD's (which i know are the majority and i probably wont ever find a real SM) and them being real but absolutely cheap skating me and also being really creepy like almost instantly after moving off of Reddit or even staying on here, not sure how to weed out the weirdo's from the actual real people yet,, lol, also is it okay to target niche groups that may be into one specific thing? or would that just be pure content creation and not being an SB? unless there was another SD that happened to like the same thing im used to lol

however i have been talking to this one man for pretty much a month now, so my last question looks a little weird but i like him because he has such a specific fetish and niche that i've become comfortable with just doing that however my problem with him is that he's literally broke, and is now trying to hire me for an actual real job and hasn't mentioned paying me at all for the multitude of things ive done (which tmi are painful and i feel like because its pain related i should at least get a little more credit than that) and i dont know what to do because i enjoy him alot but he's been dipping on me and kinda ticking me off with not listening to me and what i say & also basically stringing me until he gets settled which would be fine if he actually mentioned paying me again because he hasn't talked about that in about 2 weeks. Hes super sweet and he's the only man ive found so far that doesn't force himself on me and doesn't ever send me unsolicited and very uncomfortable messages but i dont want to just be his little thing that he drags out the actual payment part. So i guess real question is are there more like him that will actually not be so weird and forceful and constantly and aggressively sexual but actually listen to me and take care of me? What do i do with my current "SD"? (he changed it to a different title and im no longer technically his SB and idk what to do about that at all, especially how to carefully and politely broach that topic that i do like him but i just wish he'd keep his promise of taking care of me aswell like ive been exhaustedly doing for him for the past month. Im a pretty hardcore people pleaser and have very much gotten on his goodside by being super nice about everything but im not actually sure how to go about the situation in that same kind of way? also ik i should probably just grow some balls im trying my best😭) idk lol, i really enjoy this and talking with people and trying to build connections but im just very new and trying my best to learn and have been hitting a wall on how to go about all these different things

im sorry this was so long or if any of what i said was annoying at all lol! thank you for any advice/help!! ><