Hello! I've been involved in this off and on over the years, and while I've run into a few questionable situations, I have what I think is a first scam, I suppose you can call it, though I'm not sure I need to worry. For various reasons including a visible job I take discretion seriously, and my profile does not show any photos of me, and in the conversation I'm about to describe, I had not yet sent photos or used my name. This Potential SB and I chatted on SA for a bit, then took it to text (web-based text number only), after which she deleted her account.

While realizing we weren't going to be a match, were looking for different things, she asked for money up front. I tactfully indicated that we weren't going to connect and wished her all the best. At this point she asked me to 'loan her money' right away. When I held firm on this not working out, she threatened what amounts to blackmail.

She said I was 'only looking for PPM' (which is NOT the case and in fact I do not enter PPM connections at all and never said I would), and she said she 'only had the one pic from the site' (though my pics are all private and I had not shared them with her before we left the site) and she 'hopes that pic doesn't get out'. To me, that's a blackmail attempt. Then a couple days later she texted again and said, "pic's out."

I can't see her IG as it's private, but her Tiktok has nothing since Sept and before that, January. But again, she does not have any of my photos, none are even showing on SA and I hadn't sent any (turns out my instincts are right!), and she does not have my real name, only a sense of what I do for a living, which would be searchable if she had a name to connect with it, which as I said, she doesn't.

Is she just making a blackmail attempt just by saying she has my name and photo (because I can't see any way that she does)

Do I worry?

Is this enough to make me say forget it, this just isn't worth the risk anymore? A few people like this give so, so many really good people at heart, a bad name.