I must admit that I have very high expectations for a potential SD. Nonetheless, some of those expectations rest on how he vets or out-vets himself in the beginning of the SDR. By that, I mean I may take a more passive approach, trying to learn what he’s willing to offer. For me, it’s a "go high or don’t try at all" situation, where I don’t have to set a price (which he could probably surpass), so as not trying to risk low-balling myself or being perceived as entitled 🙃

Why not take the risk of setting another standard for the arrangement? Since he’s in another country, it would be unusual for him to provide an allowance without the opportunity for us to be together in a short period of time. I’m not saying impossible or that I wouldn’t appreciate it and take into consideration, but unusual.

So, I’m here to ask if you could possibly see potential in taking the first step as a vanilla couple, where only upon meeting do I have a solid monetary expectation, and in the meantime we let the connection grow as I accept any type of gift he may offer. Or is it just too complicated for it to work, with or without an expected allowance set from the start? What would a good daddy do? What would a good baby do?

I know if in anytime I feel the need to bring up the topic of something I could receive as a gift, I would need to do it testing the water since, again, he can only get a limited experience of the SDR for the most part.

Thanks a bunch! I really want to learn from these type of scenarios, as I don’t see myself getting involved with any macho-mexican man which are more commonly into this type of scene here in Mexico.