So for a bit of context, 38WM messaged me on seeking and after a day we immediately moved to texting. He stated he’s in a traditional relationship and just looking for something spicier a few time a month. I told him that as a single woman that wouldn’t be enough sex but we can see how things go. We agree on lunch twice and he asks to reschedule, then he Zelle’s me money because he felt bad. I gave him one last chance he cancels a 3rd attempt he cancels because of a doctors appointment for his hair medicine. I state it feels like he’s wasting my time, then he lets me know the truth that it’ll be hard to meet considering his gf lives with him and he can only meet up after she goes to work. We continue texting and I’m looking forward to finally meeting . We meet for lunch I arrive first and when he gets there although he looks like his picture he’s definitely not 6’1(I’m 6’4) so not too bad. Whatever we have lunch, he seems nervous but we continue to chat it up. An hour goes by and we decide to end it as he’s been stopping to check his phone constantly. I get up to leave and mind you I’m wearing platform Jadon Doc Marten so maybe a couple inches taller, well he made a comment that I look like I’m 7 feet, I laugh and tell him to stfu, he offers to get my Uber and then we part ways.

Fast forward to today he sent me this message Hey I don't think I can go though with an arrangement. Id feel too guilty about it. I think meeting up and getting lunch just made it feel "real." I'll stop wasting your time. Hopefully the money I sent helped you out a bit. Thanks.

I replied with no worries at all, stay out of trouble and take care. So my question is why message for 3 weeks, have lunch and then send that. Or was it in fact the huge height difference. He was about 5’10 on a good day!