I (25f) met my first “sugardaddy” (55m) on seeking two months ago. There is no PPM but he pays for our trips together. Or so I thought.

We went for three weeks to Japan and I decided to stay longer than him as I found a program to attend. When buying the tickets I told him that I can’t afford the ticket and he said “don’t be stupid I take care of it.” He bought a one way ticket and I mistaklenly thought he would take care of the other one later. He mentioned before that he would get me a full suitcase of underwear and blah blah. But when we are in Japan he never bought me a single gift. And I kept following him around to buy things for him only. He pays for all my food and hotels so I tried to be thankful for that.

When in Japan he almost obsessively asks me to join him for other places with him later this year, Bali, Mexico etc. I told him it’s diffciult for me to plan it now and I need to start working so I told him maybe. I finally show interest in meeting him in Vietnam after my Japan trip, and then we would fly together back home. Then he asks how much I’m willing to pay for the trip, that he would pay just a part of it. This was a shock for me and we have a fight. Turns out he was never planning on buying me the ticket home because we won’t be travelling together (is this normal?).

I asked him if he had more SBs he said no I can only afford one. Then later he guilt trips me that I was calling him sugar and all of a sudden he sees me as something more serious. I just found out that now he is in Bali with another sugarbaby. He won’t admit it but I found her instagram because I saw that he was always texting her.

We have been fighting all day in text and he just won’t admit that he’s wrong. Keeps changing the subject and blames things on me. But also love bombs. I feel betrayed and hurt. Usually I know if I have done something but now I am confused. I’m starting to see signs that this whole time he’s been gaslighting me.

Not sure why I’m posting. Maybe warning people to trust their gut and to be clear of what they are looking for. I wasn’t really and was just being adventurous and going with the flow but then things went a bit wrong.