Context for the text, SD I met last night and had sex with. I wouldn’t go raw with because he has another SB who is apparently involved with another guy. I’m just not comfortable because that feels like an indirect 4some and ordinarily I just wouldn’t have raw sex except with someone really special or someone I’m exclusive with! He accepted that and we did it with a condom. He’s dead set on seeing me again. As someone who’s not on birth control, not open to hormonal and weary/unfamiliar with the process of an IUD without parental knowledge, I don’t know what I would do in the event that I have a SD I might meet once a week. All I can think of is a vasectomy, which I’d think would be nice for him esp if/when he were to ever move onto other SB’s. He’s worried about his wife as she controls the family medical info and he’d have to travel for it. I want to do this, but I’m starting to think the most responsible move for me if I really want to maintain a longterm SD would be to get it together and look into the right BC for me. My mother controls my medical though and I can’t have her knowing either! Thoughts?