Hi there, venturing back into the bowl for the first time in a few years! There's an issue I keep running into. After chatting for a bit, we go to move the convo off SA so we can talk about the specifics of the arrangement before the initial M&G so we don't waste eachothers time meeting up

Whenever I tell them I like a ppm system, with an eventual move to an allowance in the long term, or if I ask them what ppm they think is acceptable, I'm getting alot of comments that a "ppm system feels very transactional to them"

What does this mean? I always explain to them before bringing up ppm that I'm looking for a genuine connection and I can't fake it. I tell them that I'm interested in dinners, experiences, lots of nice things. But they don't seem to want a ppm system because paying for intimacy feels too transactional to them. Is sugaring in its essence not transactional? How can I make it feel less transactional to them when I clearly explain that I'm not an escort and I genuinely want to spend quality time with them as well?

Should I just next these sort of men or am I doing something wrong...? It's just so disappointing it keeps happening :(