This week has been nothing short of HILARIOUS, so I will try to add in everything that has happened.

I’m almost tempted to post all of the screenshots of our texts so you can see the absurdity of it all. I couldn’t write this script if I tried.

After this fiasco I am probably getting out of the bowl for good. Bay Area sugar is actually a joke.

BUT this first man is not in the bay. He’s Canadian. We started chatting here from the forum (probably red flag #1), fast forward, he tells me he’s giving his SB an insanely high allowance, but that things may be ending. I politely tell him I don’t wish to converse with him (emotional labor as he was always complaining about her) while he’s still seeing her but if things end he can contact me.

Fast forward he comes back, things ended, and we’ve been talking for almost a month now. I end up being able to come to Canada this past week for other reasons.

This week leading up to the date we set to meet, was actually a joke. Mind you this all happened in the last THREE TO FOUR DAYS lmao

Excuse #1: his mom’s basement flooded

so because he’s been dealing with that he has been too exhausted to purchase my flight like he said he would. He puts it off for 3 more days, until there’s only 2 days before I’m supposed to fly out.

(I originally bought my own flight but cancelled to get my money back since he was taking forever to reimburse) He sent me $60 on PayPal, flight was $800 lol

Excuse #2: wife is finding things out and suspicious of him so now he can’t talk to me

(This adds to delay of him reimbursing my flight. Only lasts a day before he’s back and wanting attention and nudes)

Excuse #3: he’s been served and someone is suing him.

(This is 2 days before we’re supposed to meet, I’m now in Canada. I was very dumb and gave him my name and told him he can just purchase my flight, which he surprisingly does. The night before we had a talk about finalizing allowance expectations) of course he never confirms that 🙃

Excuse #4: His son now has an eye infection and he is rushing to the hospital because they told him they will be cutting his eye open.

This is the day before we are supposed to meet I sent him hotel ideas in the areas HE suggested. Doesn’t ever respond to that specific message.

Excuse #5: His mom fell and possibly broke her ankle at the hospital when trying to visit the son.

This is after I already told him I already knew we likely weren’t going to meet and I’ve already made plans with friends but of course, like all John’s and posers, he must double down..

I noticed all of this popped up after we started to discuss using protection and trying to finalize what allowance would look like. So clearly seems like he wanted to cancel but wouldn’t just SAY IT. Grown ass man btw.

He then sends a message that he’d like to visit me in California. Meanwhile I’m like 40 mins away from this man currently in his OWN country 😂😂😂🤣

So anyways that’s obviously over. Time to block.

As far as Bay Area, lots of time wasters and it’s exhausting. I was chatting for the last month or so with a POT who I thought was lovely and a really nice guy. The allowance he suggested was super high, even higher than my ask, and I was so ecstatic that he was intentional with everything. We made dinner reservations for today, two weeks ago and had been chatting a lot. He was sending me photos of his vacation as he was out of the country with family.

We both knew we’d be getting back to California only within a few days of each other. I was so excited for this date with him.

Then I didn’t hear from him for 2 days. I then received a short, lifeless text from Bay Area POT (a day after Canadian POT mentioned his last excuse) that he met someone else, will be moving forward with her and that he is “sorry if he wasted my time”………. It was very short, and curt. after asking me to wait for you for a month to return, you then cancel everything with me 2 days before our date that we scheduled weeks ago…

I will likely get lots of hate for this but I don’t care. I tried to give POTs a chance that seemed promising after wanting out of the bowl because of how the men are currently and it got me literally nowhere. I just needed to get this out because it’s been so hard to find someone actually serious and willing to make me a priority. So while I can laugh at some of this it also hurts like hell.

What a brutal week lmao Luckily I had an amazing time with friends on all of my other travels.

Rant over.