Most women I have met in the bowl are refugees from the vanilla world. Common story, was with a guy for 6 months - 3 years, nice initially, then violent and a deadbeat. No job, no career, no money. No vacations, zero financial support, zero future.

So then lady comes to sugar land / seek on to look for older SDs, most who are married and never available for a future.

Big question is then why not date older guys for vanilla dating. Guys who have the wealth & maturity. I know a couple of women who are in long term relationships with older guys after being SBs. Many of my 40 - 50 yo wealthy friends have 25 - 35 yo vanilla girlfriends.