My first even SR. SB is divorced with a kid. She is gorgeous even in her 40s. Her last SD was a whale (as she told me she was getting low to mid five figure monthly allowance). She rents in expensive area of our HCOL city in a 3BR so rent is high. She doesn’t work, although do some online stuff but I feel it doesn’t pay much. I pay her allowance equal to covering her rent which she was very happy with (though I learnt later that she had plans to ask me money every now and then on top of her allowance). She also gets money from her parents every month.

We talk everyday. And she tells me she is going to museum, games, buying unnecessary things, expensive salons and she just bought a gaming PC for her son with her credit card. And next day, she calls me and asks for money because she can’t pay her rent and her credit card is overdrawn. She yelled at me for not helping (though that’s a different story).

I’m surprised she doesn’t know her rent is due. And what do they do with the allowance I paid just a couple of weeks ago. I would think if you’re short of money, you either work to earn or spend wisely with what you have.

I read posts here and I see many intelligent SBs on how they manage or plan their money. Is my SB an exception? I mean she didn’t have money at all to cover for rent after she spent everything on unnecessary things? And for what reason, you will rent a 3BR in the most expensive area of the city when you don’t work at all and are not even searching.

This is not a rant but I really want to understand if this is normal or my SB is an exception?