There was a recent post from an SB whose new SD went well beyond her understanding of the limits.

For those who have been here more than a year I'll apologize for the repeat of the recommendation that every entry level SB (and every young person) to watch Gavin deBeckers college lecture

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNtXjIiJ0PU]

and read his foundational book Gift of Fear.

Nationally recognized expert on recognizing and reacting to threats and with a passion for protecting young women who have been "trained" to be polite to the point that it often puts them in danger

He's made some of the professional tools available to cover a number of situations including domestic and dating situations... free

https://www.mosaicmethod.com/

Before the digital age he prepared a list of about 20 questions for police to use in assessing the risk of domestic violence that was widely used . Had LAPD applied it to OJ when called to the home instead of asking for autographs a couple of people might be alive today.

What he has done is to make professional level tools available to the public.