So I was inspired by a recent post of the value of sugar relationships and it got me thinking about common threads that my previous ones have followed.

By sugar we typically mean money of course. I spent time reading the forums in which sugar babies discuss strategies for extracting the most sugar from uber rich older men whilst spending the least possible time getting jiggly with them, seeing (so called) intimacy as a necessary evil to maintain the flow of sugar. It made me realise my experiences were nothing like this. I'd never want to be with someone who just wanted my money, there would be no fulfillment in that for me. However if I'm with someone younger, with more limited means, who I deeply care about, then of course I want to support them in lots of ways, including financially. Cash, like sugar in our diet is like petrol on a bonfire, instant energy - whoosh and its gone. Although cash is still important, theres a multitude of other benefits my previous girls have enjoyed in a much more wholeistic way than cash alone. Really understanding their life goals, sharing connections, resources, advice and mentoring are just a few things that come to mind. To put it simply, if she's in my life, then I'm in her life too, and I'll do anything in my power to have a genuinely happy, fulfilled girl who loves being with me even if it wasn't for the pure 'sugar'. That's just the cherry on the cake. OK that's enough metaphors for now, but hopefully you get what I'm trying to say!!