New SD here. We have been seeing each other for a couple of months now. I am married so our meetups are at her home about once a week for a couple of hours. From the beginning she was trusting and kind and invited me in her home and we agreed on a monthly allowance. She was ok going without condom as she tests regularly and has no other intimate partner. During our meets we talk first for hours, share whats happening in our life etc. she is driven and ambitious - finishing her studies and working. She is not a party kind of girl but sees friends and family but mostly focuses on getting ahead.

We use a hidden communication channel (app) that she does otherwise not use other than for us to communicate. So my messages do not pop up or so. From the beginning when we messaged it was mostly to set up next weeks date with her taking always 1-2 days to reply and never replying on a weekend (often taking 4 days to reply when i text thursdays). During holiday period there was more than a week of not texting and at some point because i was not suggesting meeting dates she asked if i had no more time to see her and we met up again. I tried to have a conversation about it saying that i was being repectful in letting her enjoy her holiday and that i felt she might want to focus on her private life when we are not together and she said she thought i am always so crazy busy etc. i then said i will always have time to reach out for a couple of min and that i would write happily to her if she likes to receice my message. I tried reaching out and asking more about upcoming events or stuff she was telling me that was going on in order to have more connection but essentially nothing changed. She still replies slowly and by the time we exchange three messages we meet again. Just now she again did not text a full week because she was sick and i guess i got insecure if it meant something her wanting to end it or having found a boyfriend or something else.

I have shortened the lenghty original post and include an update below.

Update: After 1 full week she finally replied saying guess who is back from being dead and that she was really sick till yesterday.

You all commented already with lots of helpful things. I guess my question still is how to proceed and react.

On the one hand she just might not like to text (on her secondary app) and after all its a sugar relationship so maybe this is her way of keeping it seperate or not falling for more. And I could just enjoy for hower long it works out. Appart the texing it is a perfect arrangement especially considering i have limited time and that we can meet at her place.

On the other hand i find it strange not to be able to read and reply to a message even when sick for a full week and wonder if there is more to it. I tried with my messages to show that i care and that i am not only there for fun but that i would support her if she needed something. Also considering we are bare back do i bring it up next meet? Something like i understand you are not into texting and prefer to use it just to arrange our meetings. That is fine by me but i want you to know i am there for you if you needed anything and you can reach out. I just wanted you to know this by me texting and asking how things are going. And if anything changes on our arrangement that you can always talk to me and that i still count on our promise to be the only ones going bare back and that if something should change i would like to know beforehand.

Or option three just start using condoms and say either that i got increasingly anxios about unwanted pregnancy or i could say that during the full week she was not replying i imagined she might be pregnant and so i am more comfortable now with?