I’m an experienced SD in SoCal. I’ve done both long-term and short. I’m generous, engaging, respectful, etc. I’m attractive, healthy, very successful. I always choose upscale restaurants or bars for meets, pay as a gent should, etc. Open doors, pull out seats, respect boundaries…basically all the stuff you’re supposed to do in sugar and civilian life.

I keep getting inexplicably ghosted. Meet on SA, chat, exchange texts, schedule a date and day of date complete ghost, zero response. Nothing weird or unkind said prior. Last text about date was enthusiastic. Then ghost without explanation.

I get that things happen from time to time, that people can have life drama….but it’s happening a lot.

I’m attractive, intelligent, nice and successful. I get called hot, yummy, etc. I’ve been self critical and gone back and analyzed what I may be doing wrong but there is nothing. No weird crap too soon, no explicit expectations mentioned, nothing that would explain it.

I thought a bitter ex might be posting on some girls only chat site where SBs compare notes but I can’t find such a place to check.

It’s so weird I thought about changing my number because some phone company tech guy was snooping and messaging people behind my back. I know that sounds weird because it is weird. I’m just at a loss to explain using normal reasons why this is happening and I’m ending up with weird conspiracy theories.

What is it?

I even had an SB that we had gone out to lunch a few times had good messaging back-and-forth and in the middle of the night unfriend me on snap without a word.

I know ghosting is this cool thing that GenZ invented but it happens so much without any word any explanation anything it makes zero sense. I am at a loss.

What is going on?