To start, I use the term “payment” to make communicating this post easier. In my SR, I don’t consider the funds I provide my SB “payment” but rather support as I care about her and want to be able to provide for her in multiple ways - financially included.

My question - we are at a transition stage in our relationship where we are moving to an allowance. I’ll spare the group the details, but suffice it to say, our relationship is transitioning from a SR to more of a SBF/SGF place. And in that, I/we want to provide more consistently.

My question, what is your preferred mode of “payment”? I’d rather not carry around $xxxx and pull that money from the bank. But, I’m also leery about electronic forms of payment due to the ability to easily trace them. Also, our schedules are all over the place - we don’t have a consistent date schedule - but I/we want the “payment” to be consistent and dependable.

I’m curious to pull from the expertise of this group to hopefully find a best solution.

Any input is appreciated, TIA.