So I have a question to everyone, subs, doms, switches whatever you identify as!!!!

So recently I’ve noticed a few things in relation to sub drops, it is something I experience, sometimes it happens randomly other times it’s immediately after an intense session. Other times it doesn’t happen at all.

I’ve talked to a few doms on and off, some with years or experience others just starting out. A lot of the time they are really confused and don’t know what it is, look that’s okay I’m constantly learning new things. It’s just their response to it, a lot of the time they are closed off to it, dismissive or just don’t care. For me aftercare transcends into helping me with a sub drop if necessary. I’ve had doms completely refuse it say they want me to experience those feelings and stay like that so I crave more from them. I’ve had someone ghost me after I brought up having a sub drop ….

Is this normal, is it that uncommon and do doms really hate participating in helping subs that much. Or is it just the people I’m talking to. Look tbh I didn’t have a name for what I was experiencing until I asked reddit so I totally get it but the lack of general care for that stuff doesn’t make sense.

It also maybe is just normal and I’m being silly or overacting for wanting the dom I’m in a relationship with to help me with sub drop/ aftercare.

Any advice appreciated xoxo ❣️