I have been a sub for over 20 years, although I've only had two long term Doms who were also in a romantic relationship with me. Before my current Dom, who I truly believe is the love of my life, I took almost 10yrs off dating due to a bad BDSM experience.

Currently, I couldn't be happier with my Dom. He is everything I could wish for and more and it didn't take long for us to admit our feelings to the other. But I know at the beginning of the relationship he was concerned since although I'd been upfront about being severely disabled, I guess you have to judge a person for themselves. In my case I have a brain stem injury following an accident which led to a lot of neurological problems (a couple of examples, in 2021 I lost all nerve function in my hands, in May this year my right leg stopped working one day - both were several months in hospital). I wanted to be totally honest.

My Dom is one of the most open minded people I've ever met and his only concern was my safety if he took me out having been housebound for around 5 years. He took me out on a date which started off bring overwhelming and terrifying for me, but as time has passed and with his help I've been getting out more often, even going abroad to meet family with him, I am so grateful for him seeing past my limitations. Sure, I may not be able to kneel or hold a position for hours, but there's nothing so far we've tried that's been a problem.

I have one concern and that is something I'm not sure, but wouldn't be surprised if he's thought of. How do people feel about an able bodied Dom having a disabled sub? My disability is not as obvious as a wheelchair (although I use those at times) but I do use a stick to walk with. Personally I don't think it should be any difference to me being in a sexual relationship that was vanilla, but I was wondering what type of attitudes you have encountered in the community with arrangements of this sort?