Hello.

I'm 29M and this is a genuine question I have. Is there a safe way to ignore, reduce, or even eliminate libido entirely?

I've done some self reflection. I have NO genuine interest in a relationship right now, like at all. No sexual partners is obviously not great for my libido and masturbation/porn doesn't cut it anymore. It just leads to more frustration long term. Hookups are not an option because I couldn't score a date (online or offline) to save my life.

I don't think it's a personality issue or lack of social skills. I have friends, no issues talking to new people, have no issues at work, etc. I've tried dating before and even when told I have a nice personality that's obviously not enough to lead to sex.

I want to just take time to work on my appearance and go to therapy before even attempting anything related to dating and/or sex. Maybe my goals will be different by then.

In the meantime, how can I ignore/reduce/eliminate libido? I am assuming there is no permanent way to do so but if there was I'd be open to that idea as well.