A lot of people talk about very boring and mundane stuff, like, ”What’s your name? You come here often? What’s the occasion? How long are you in town for? Are you a regular here? Is it your first time? Have you been here before? How was your day?” and then when the conversation reaches an awkward standstill, they get up and move about the room. And they’re left frustrated and annoyed and wondering why they’re not making money, or sales. And they feel as though their time has been wasted. And it’s very unmotivating.

Don’t get me wrong, I use some of these lines, too. There is nothing wrong with a bit of small talk, and introducing yourself. ”Hi, my name is __________.”

But remember, you are supposed to be there to sell a fantasy experience.

I’m introverted and socially awkward, so, I get it.

But here are some of the conversation points I like to use, if I feel like it’s awkward or dry.

I’m not saying these will work with every customer, in all situations, but. It’s a place to start, if you are very nervous of unsure of what to say to people.

Stripper Hu$tling Tips: 🏧💃🏽

A good line is ”let’s see where it goes…” 💭

I’m black/mixed, and I work in a mostly white & Latina club, and so I used to get soooo annoyed & uncomfortable when people would harass me or ask me about my ethnicity/race. I didn’t know what to say, and sometimes I would get upset, or leave the section. But maybe there is a way to be playful about it, or try to build desire/intrigue…

🚩 If they ask you what your race is, you could suggest: “You can guess my race, for a tip?” — OR — “I’ll give you 3 guesses, and if you guess wrong, you have to buy a dance.” Or something like this, along those lines… Make it fun. Make it a “GAME.”

You could even make it a challenge. Sometimes I will say, in a playful way: “Do you think I could turn you on…?”

Examples of random lines I’ve been using on customers:

✅ “You seem stressed — let me help you unwind/take the edge off…”

✅ “I wanna make you feel good”

✅ “We would look soo hot together!”

✅ “I wanna dance for you”/“Let me take you to the back?” or some variation of this…

✅ “What are you tryna get into?”

✅ “I am so attracted to you. I feel so comfortable around you. I don’t know what it is, but I feel like I’ve known you my whole life. Let’s keep that energy going…”

✅ “Do you like freaking?”

✅ “What’s your favorite part of my body?” ___________ and pause, to give them a chance to answer the question.

(APPEALS TO THEIR EGO:)

✅ “I saw you sitting alone over here, and I thought you were hot, so I had to come talk to you!”

✅ “We’re here now, let’s just have a good time…”

✅ “Let’s go now, I might not be available later if another guy scoops me up…”

✅ “Babe, it’s kind of loud in here. Can we go in the V.I.P. Room so we can talk one-on-one?”

✅ “You horny? I can take care of that for you…”

✅ “I’m so horny for you.”

✅ (Lean in and smell them seductively/don’t be weird but just be cutesy about it) “What fragrance is that?/What fragrance are you wearing?” (Let them answer: __________) “It’s soo sexy on you…”

If you don’t like these, or these aren’t your style, figure out your own. It’s a case-by-case basis, and also, it comes with time… it’s awkward at first, but once you get the momentum from making a few sales, it will help to build your confidence. (I get it! Trust me. I’ve been there. I know it’s hard sometimes, I HATE being rejected/told no a lot. It makes me crumble inside. ☹️😣😩)

Feeling adventurous/fun?

✅ “TRUTH OR DARE?”

Feeling bratty?

✅ “Do you like good girls or bad girls?”

✅ “I just kinda need someone to pull my hair and SPANK me for being so bad today…”

Feeling submissive? Lean into that role. You could try:

✅ “I wanna please you, babe.”

✅ “Let me take care of you, Daddy?”

I’m sorry if you find these talking points corny or dumb. But to me, personally, I feel dumb playing 21 Questions with a guy, or being asked a ton of questions about my personal life, and then making no money, and having my time wasted. 🤷🏽‍♀️

(Observations about the customer:)

✅ If they’re wearing a band t-shirt for example, I might say, “Oh my God, I love death metal!”

If all else fails,

✅ “Have a good night. Come see me later.”

✅ “I’m going on stage now, if you’d like to come see me dance on stage!”

✅ “I’m feeling freaky.”

✅ “I want to ride…”

I like to play up my personality to be very cheeky & flirty, but if that’s not your personality, then some of these dialogues might not land for you. It’s a your-mileage-may-vary type of thing. 🤷🏽‍♀️