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Girl, are you for fucking real????

When I came into this game at a young age, I came ALONE.

I didn’t have someone by my side, holding my hand, & cheering me on, every step of the way.

I didn’t even have a car then, but I still made it work. I would Uber to work every day, and stay & do double-shifts, and just try to be there as much as possible…

It just blows my mind when I keep seeing posts on here, where girls are like “I want a friend to dance with.”

What the actual fuck? Are you serious?? Like, come on now. Really??

This is wrong for so many reasons. (But let’s start with some of the more obvious ones…)

(1) I mean. Think about it: What are you going to be doing when it comes to you and the customer in a private room/lap dance area? ALONE. What are you going to be doing on that stage? ALONE. What are you going to be doing for your “audition”? ALONE. (Do you see where I’m going with this…?)

(2) Saying that really does make you seem, either privileged or insecure…or both. You come across, as someone who never really had to “struggle,” by saying ridiculous statements like that. Because if you were REALLY about it, then you would not be acting like this is all just one big party and everything is for shits & giggles, because it’s really not. It comes across as very immature and foolish, tbh. It’s not all for “funsies.” Go to Disneyland for that…

(3) Obviously, we as dancers do doubles sometimes, but that is more rare and not the standard/“everyday” occurrence. Same thing with dancing in sections: Sure, girls do dance in sections sometimes. But then, if that’s the case, you better be prepared to split the money, 4, 5, 6 etc.… ways.

(4) You need to learn how to develop your own HU$TLE… Use your own VOICE… Establish your own BOUNDARIES… Get into your own FLOW & ROUTINE… Build your own CLIENTELE. And adapt your own STYLE. How do you expect to do this, if you are always cliquing up with other females, and/or clinging to your bestie?

(5) It can get messy/drama, and you should take care to avoid drama at all costs.

Now, there may be exceptions: for example: In some places/locations/situations, it might make sense to link up with a “dance partner,” or “travel dance,” or take a “girl’s trip,” or “tag-team a guy.” But it’s really a case-by-case thing. And you’re going to be working SOLO (as an independent agent) the majority of the time, in a gentlemen’s club (or “home club”) environment.

I think that if you are even making statements like that in the first place, then your head is not in the right place & I don’t think you’re ready. Or you need to take a step back, and reevaluate what you’re doing.

I get that everyone has their own unique situation, and everyone comes from different walks of life, but come on. That’s just such a weak move, in my book.

I guess I could see, if you’re only going to be dancing/stripping SUPER SHORT-TERM, why it might make sense to have a girl bestie you work with all the time.

The real ones, from Day One, started alone, possibly even had to keep dancing a secret for awhile, and if you get it, you get it, and if you don’t, I’m sorry.

This generation is on a different level, when it comes to a lot of stuff…

Ladies, we need to get it together.

I get wanting to make friends, but. If it’s meant to happen, it’ll happen. It’s natural. Don’t try to force it.

I get being nervous: that’s normal. But if you cannot stand on your own two Pleasers, and go out there on the floor, and command some attention, and do what you need to do… then you’re really clowning yourself, honestly. And I question if you have the emotional maturity, to handle this job. It can be A LOT. Let’s be real. And it’s definitely not for the weak…

I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but: At a certain point… We all need to get a grip, and take some personal accountability.

It’s the strip club, not a sorority.