Hey, sister. Beautiful lady. I know you’re reading this.

Don’t neglect your physical and mental health…

And don’t let this job, or these clubs, take away who you are.

I know it’s hard sometimes, because we get so consumed in the club. It’s to the point where I would compulsively check the Roll Call/lineup, even on nights when I wasn’t even working, because I had the F.O.M.O. or “fear of missing out.” I’ve had times where I couldn’t get certain trap music songs out of my head, because I was constantly subjected to it at work…

When outside of work, try to do things that heal you/rejuvenate you/make you happy/take care of yourself.

This looks different for everybody, but for me, it might be lighting some sage, candles, and palo santo. Or doing a foot soak. 🧖🏽‍♀️🦶🏼🦶🏼 (I’ll link the device I use here: https://www.amazon.com/Conair-Pedicure-Soothing-Vibration-Lavender/dp/B0092M6KD8?pd_rd_w=CkIEi&content-id=amzn1.sym.e3825789-e6f0-4fb1-a407-ff4674fea50d&pf_rd_p=e3825789-e6f0-4fb1-a407-ff4674fea50d&pf_rd_r=4XYRJC2VBZJQS9FC0TMP&pd_rd_wg=EetA2&pd_rd_r=00e1a051-0634-4063-83c6-eea0112d4d84&pd_rd_i=B0092M6KD8&psc=1&ref_=pd_basp_m_rpt_ba_s_2_sc) About once a week, if I remember to, or every two weeks, I try to do one of those at-home Aztec clay facials. They make my skin feel nice and tight! 😊😌🧖🏽‍♀️🛁🫧🧼🧴

Maybe it’s taking a drive or taking a walk... 🚶🏽‍♀️🚙🌳☀️👟👟

If you don’t feel up to doing a hardcore workout, maybe doing the StairMaster or the elliptical, is a good place to start. 🏋🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️👟👟

Don’t neglect to take your meds, if you have any, or your vitamins & probiotics…

Sometimes, I like to be a couch potato. 🛋️🥔

Sometimes, I need to get out of the house. 🏡🚙🚶🏽‍♀️

Beyond just the physical self-care… Do things that make you feel good! A favorite song is like a warm blanket. I enjoy going back and listening to those old albums from my youth/adolescence, to bring back that nostalgia. (Sometimes this does make me feel melancholy, but it’s amazing to me that the songs have aged so well and they still sound amazing. If anything, they even have a deeper, more profound emotional resonance to me, now that I am older.) For me personally, I am really into alternative music and rock… Find what that “happy place” is for you, for your SOUL. 🎵💗💓💕

I like watching highlights from The Office, I like watching some of my favorite Daria episodes… Some people like movies, podcasts, books, shows, music, standup, blogs/forums such as this one, anime, gaming, TED Talks, YouTubers, computers, auto shop, meditation, yoga, sports, museums, fitness classes, pole, aerial, D.I.Y. projects, art, hiking trails, jogging, skating, motorcycles, parks, the beach, photography, video creation & editing, cooking & baking… there is something out there for everyone.

Find something that will make you feel better, RIGHT NOW.

For me this is spending quality time with my cats: petting, brushing, cuddling, cat TV, playing with games & toys, giving out little treats…

Take your makeup off before bed. Even if you’re tired. Have some sort of basic skincare routine.

Sometimes you just need to organize & declutter the house! (I like to listen to podcasts about minimalism while I do this, to motivate me/keep me going…)

Try to eat a fruit or vegetable once in a while. (I just started using my blender again, since forever, and this is really helping me, as I prefer to get these nutrients in liquid form, because to be honest I don’t always just crave fruits and greens as “snacks” if that makes sense.) Smoothies are your friend!🥤🍓🫐🍊🍌 I’m not saying you can never have fast food or comfort food or processed foods, but try to have some balance to your diet. I try to have a salad once in awhile. 🥗 Also, pineapple is one of my favorite fruits! 🍍 (I don’t know if it actually makes your pussy sweeter, or if that was just an urban legend, lol.)

I just wanted to tell you that you’re special, you’re beautiful, you’re loved, you’re worth MORE.

When you look in that mirror, you hold your head up high. There is no one like you. 🪞

We go through a lot at these clubs… dark things. Depressing.

Keep your head up.

Don’t let these people decide your value.

Don’t let this industry break you down.

Sometimes I feel invisible or small. I feel like nobody sees me for who I really am.

There is a LOSS OF INNOCENCE that happens when you start getting heavily involved in sex work… And it also comes with just growing up, and being “in the real world.” These are rites of passage. But don’t lose your real identity. Don’t become too jaded and hurt and broken. (I know, it’s easier said than done.) I try to remind myself to do & think about things that bring back that “happy” feeling of innocence and joy.

You know what? I’m getting to a point where I don’t care what these men call me. Gold-digger? Trash? 304? Ugly? Bitch? Cunt? Whore? Loser? Crazy? Weird? There is nothing you can say to me I haven’t already heard before, a thousand times over. I don’t have to subscribe these things that I have been repeatedly called by men. I know who I am. Yeah, of course it still hurts, but I know who I am, I know I am a good person.

I live in a super expensive city, and I am paying my rent all by myself, for myself and my two cats.

I have a lot of mental issues & PTSD, that I suffer from daily, that makes it hard for me to live with other people, or “fit in” to conventional society. So who is anyone to judge?? They haven’t been through what you have; they know not the hardships that you have survived, that brought you here.

Every stripper has a story. Every single one.

I like having new clothes, my big comfy bed, hot food, and a roof over my head…

And I worked hard for these things. I deserve to enjoy them.

I would like to get to a point financially where I can travel more…

When you’re bullied and put down by men & even other women in the strip club… just remember: They know exactly what they’re doing. Don’t fall for it!! They’re secretly hoping if they break you down enough, with the name-calling, the fear & intimidation, the scare tactics, the gaslighting, the negging, the mean comments, the harassment, the ABUSE — that you’ll be too scared to come back to work & show your face. That’s called sabotage. That’s exactly what they want. If they can get you out of the picture, by treating you horribly, then they can get the money selfishly to themselves.

Don’t lose yourself.

Don’t let people take away your shine.

Don’t ever forget that you are a SURVIVOR.

Don’t let these idiots make you feel cheap or unwanted.

You’re not a “bitch.” You’re a human being. 🫂

You deserve to be treated with respect.

Sending love & healing. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

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