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So my family is a bunch of old yt republicans. It’s a given that they’ll think I’m a whore. But I’m just now realizing that EVERYONE in my life sees me as a whore and values me less bc of it.
My old best friend reconnected with me to tell me they don’t want to be friends bc I’m “still a stripper” that I’m “so smart and had so much potential”. I “manipulate men for money” so they can’t have me in their life bc I would devalue it. They’re going to a nice school and getting a degree. They don’t want my whorish stripper germs to rub off on them. Oh but they don’t hate on sex work or anything bc they’re an ally and all that. We used to go to blm protests together, they’re non binary and a very active member in the lgbt community, because they love supporting marginalized groups. Not this one tho cuz we’re all in thongs. Also, we reconnected bc they were a CUSTOMER at the strip club I work at. fuckin eye roll so hard they fell out of my skull
No matter how much of an “ally” someone is, if they knew you before you started stripping, if they claim they love you. Civilians think we’re whores deep down. And in their minds, whores deserve less respect, and are less valuable than ‘normal’ people. Be careful in your dealings with them is all I’ve got to say.
That’s why I didn’t even bother arguing with them. I just said “okay I understand” bc there’s no point in defending myself when they clearly have a certain mindset regarding SWs already.
Fuck em 🤷♀️🤣
i feel this…idk if whore is the right word for this but ever since i started dancing my great friend has pulled back and always comes up for other secret code words to say what i do for work (“club promoting” is her fav) it just doesn’t sit well w me because ik even if it isn’t to my face, she’s not approving of me
I love that you feel supported and loved. Like you said, everyone should have that. A part of me gets so irritated hearing about people with normal/loving families and friends tho. Hearing that someone has in abundance something I’ve always lacked 🙃
Which is understandable. You don't have enough of something you should, and that isn't your fault. The people around you suck.
Its just that the defeatism I see in the sex work community is doing a lot of harm to our ability to connect with people. Romantic relationships are one thing, but when we get into a "remember all civvies will only ever think of us as whores" mentality, we are dooming ourselves to loneliness. We were all civilians before we were sex workers. There are friends out there for us.
That’s pretty much the situation I’m in. Childhood best friend, I didn’t think anything could break up our friendship. Turns out the line is shaking my ass lol. They were never our REAL friends imo. It’s sad but good riddance tbh
I love that you feel supported and loved. Like you said, everyone should have that. A part of me gets so irritated hearing about people with normal/loving families and friends tho. Hearing that someone has in abundance something I’ve always lacked 🙃
Which is understandable. You don't have enough of something you should, and that isn't your fault. The people around you suck.
Its just that the defeatism I see in the sex work community is doing a lot of harm to our ability to connect with people. Romantic relationships are one thing, but when we get into a "remember all civvies will only ever think of us as whores" mentality, we are dooming ourselves to loneliness. We were all civilians before we were sex workers. There are friends out there for us.
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I love that you feel supported and loved. Like you said, everyone should have that. A part of me gets so irritated hearing about people with normal/loving families and friends tho. Hearing that someone has in abundance something I’ve always lacked 🙃
Which is understandable. You don't have enough of something you should, and that isn't your fault. The people around you suck.
Its just that the defeatism I see in the sex work community is doing a lot of harm to our ability to connect with people. Romantic relationships are one thing, but when we get into a "remember all civvies will only ever think of us as whores" mentality, we are dooming ourselves to loneliness. We were all civilians before we were sex workers. There are friends out there for us.