i started working at a new club yesterday and it was extremely stressful lol .. not because of work but because of the dancers ! ( DISCLAIMER !!! I am NOT judging women by their choices !!! I believe in full bodily autonomy as long as it doesn’t interfere with me.) i am extremely antisocial and reserved, i barely interact with people at all unless i am at work.

don’t call me dense pls, i’m only 20 and have never worked anywhere longterm but Gentlemen’s clubs that are strict about usage … this club is in a very rural area and i came as a black woman with my black friend.. i could tell they haven’t spoke to a black girl in a minute.. anyway , there was a dancer (let’s call her B) who said she been working there the longest and was taking us around and explaining how they do their rooms, okay. after she showed me around and explained the basic things i thanked her and let her know i have danced before so this should be manageable.

throughout the night she continued to approach me and repeat how Wednesday’s are slow, or talking about the most she’s made here, after like 3-4 rounds of that same convo she came to me like “omgggg my ex, sister and my girlfriend are coming (kept talking about them in detail like this is not my first time ever meeting her), so make sure you guys aren’t afraid to take all their money” … i was like “well yeah girl, i know how to do my job :)” mind you i was not rude at all the whole time she continuously spoke to me, i just kept nodding yes & saying ok.

after i told her that i know how to do my job she started putting her hands in my face, saying how she “knows and loves me” but i need to humble myself and how she knows i came from the “bougie” clubs but i need to stop being so cocky … mind you i have not said anything else other than nod .. i was like girl we actually do not know each other, and i am gonna walk away now, and went to sit at the chair right in front of her lol ..

the lady who put me on to this club was there and as we spoke i told her like idk what’s up with that girl, and she told me B & all the others are high as shit on coke and muscle relaxers.. which makes sense because all of the girls gave off an energy i could not pinpoint and were drinking/going to the dressing room all night. one was swinging on the pole then slamming her whole body to the floor like her arms went numb.

also, B came BACK up to me again after that interaction totally forgetting she just was all in my face telling me to humble myself .. and before we clocked out she was repeating the same things she been telling me all night about the club. overall it was just very draining and i was genuinely so confused as to why she was acting like that .. idk how to adjust to that if it will be like that every night. i only go to work to speak to customers for money and leave .. after she showed me around i think everything else was unnecessary.

like i appreciate them being welcoming but we do not know each other and we do not need to speak excessively ..