As r/straightturnedgay has grown, it was necessary to create a post to prevent a level of toxicity that is possible. So, while you may enjoy this subreddit - It is very important to live transparent, healthy lives that do not damage others.

Think of our mission at r/straightturnedgay as one that helps ‘straight’ guys turn into sexually healthy, confident and self-accepting gay/bi men.

While everybody’s situation is different, please do your best to ethically navigate this subreddit. If you run into any issues with a persistent ‘straight boy’/master/mistress/bull/whoever, please feel free to reach out to our mod team to address it.

Can you turn gay?

No. You can become more aware and accepting of your sexuality.

What is self-acceptance?

When we're self-accepting, we're able to embrace all facets of ourselves—not just the positive, more "esteem-able" parts. As such, self-acceptance is unconditional, free of any qualification.

Be honest and open with yourself. How is sexuality impacting your life? Do what is needed for self-acceptance. You can identify however you like, but don’t judge yourself negatively for it.

More questions? Browse the resources below.

• The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance
• How to Come Out to Yourself: A Guide for Self-Acceptance
• Ask Deepak: How to Accept Your Sexuality
• Research Article on Self-acceptance and self-disclosure of sexual orientation in lesbian, gay, and bisexual adults: An attachment perspective
• Paid Webinar: Finding Healthy and Satisfying Sexuality Through Self-acceptance

Recommended Reading

The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World by Dr. Alan Downs

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Book Description: The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger—a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide.

Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.

Persecuted LGBTQ Members

If you live in a country where being ‘out’ means you could be arrested, tortured, or killed, and need help, please review the resources below.

• LGBTQ United States Asylum Seeker
• Immigration Equality: Leading LGBTQ immigrant rights organization

Closeted Boys

If you’re in the closet, consider whether your attraction to men is impacting your life outcomes. Do you avoid getting close to people in fear that they’ll discover you’re gay? Are you unable to show attraction to females, but lead them on? If your life is ‘stuck’, consider seeking advice.

Subreddits that may be helpful to you are r/comingout, r/askgaybros, and r/lgbt.

Cheaters

If you’re in a relationship, it is very important to have transparent conversations with your partners. It is, put simply, fucked up to fuck men behind your partner’s back without their knowledge.

At some point, you have to tell her you’re attracted to men if you want to experiment sexually with men. Show her this subreddit and let her know your desires. At the worst, you will know she isn’t the one for you - but you will at least be given the opportunity to live an authentic life. At the best, she will turn you into her dirty little cockwhore. 😈

Subreddits that may be helpful to you are r/SexAddiction, r/relationships, r/relationshipadvice and r/selfimprovement.

Bulls, Masters and Mistresses

Treat yourself and boys ethically. While it is fun to ‘turn’ straight boys, you also bear a responsibility to promote a transparent lifestyle. Think of our mission at r/straightturnedgay as helping our straight boys turn to healthy gay/bi boys.

Here is an example of way to do it in a reddit dm:

Mistress/Bull/Masters: Have you told her yet?
Him: No
Mistress/Bull/Masters: Do it, tell her you like dick. Tell her you want to try it. We both know you’ll be happier.
two days later
Him: I told her.. she made me send this to you.

Toxic Behavior

If you find yourself posting or engaging in toxic behavior that you believe is harmful to others, you may want to consider some type of therapy. There are subreddits out there to change your behavior and be cognizant of the effect your actions have on others.

While everybody’s situation is different, please do your best to ethically navigate this kink. If you run into any issues, please send a message to our mod team to address it.

If you have anything you would like added to this post, please comment below.

Lastly, have fun! 😈

Helpful subreddits for those looking to find self-acceptance:
r/therapy
r/comingout
r/askgaybros
r/lgbt
r/SexAddiction
r/relationships
r/selfimprovement
r/relationshipadvice
r/DecidingToDoBetter

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